An online dictionary defines Bitching as 'To complain; grumble' but I think it has become deeper than that. I think bitching is mainly found in groups of girls, talking negatively about someone behind their back and saying things they're unlikely to say to their face.
Whilst a bit of constructive criticism never hurt anyone (hopefully!) bitching can be really upsetting and hurtful. I recently read a card that said 'Friends don't judge each other, they get together to judge everyone else.' And I agree that it's perfectly natural to talk about other people outside our friendship groups, but imagine what you'd do if the person you were bitching about heard you, would you be embarrassed? If so then maybe you should think carefully about what you say.
I'll hold my hands up and say yes I've bitched before, as I'm sure we all have, but I've also been the one bitched about, and it hurts, even for the hardest of people.
What baffles me is how bitching still occurs, when it seems so unnecessary. Does it help you in anyway to bitch? Does it make you feel better? To me all it seems to do is hurt others. It does nothing for anyone's self esteem.
I think it's also important that we control ourselves in group conversations, I agree that it's so easy to join in when people are talking about someone negatively, but there really is no need, you can listen to someone's opinion but joining in can be dangerous.
I try to remember that I have no idea what is going on in other peoples lives, and that everyone has flaws and no one is perfect. What right do I have to criticize someone else when I'm far from perfect?
Whatever happened to boosting the confidence of others and admiring their differences? Let's give that girl the benefit of the doubt before we gossip about her, and think before we speak.
